People often view love as an abstract thing—an incomprehensible being that people have embraced and at the same time, detested at some point of their lives. Most people would have difficulties in finding a definite explanation for something so powerful yet so distant: how do we actually define something that is not even bound by the rules of matter?
But here’s the trick: there is some logic behind love—or at least, the sensation that comes with it. It is there, within different forms and capacities. We cannot deny its existence just because we cannot see it; but its warmth can come in the presence of a person we hold dearly. With a smile, a pat on the shoulder, a hug—love lets its presence be known.
In this cold and barren world, love helps us light a spark that in turn, brings light and love into our otherwise bland lives. Meeting someone is an instantaneous phenomenon—a spark that eventually becomes a firework of emotions, all brought about by a single touch. A touch so electric that it’s intoxicating. A spark that could light a flame and ignite a heart. A heart that longs to be alive—oh, how it feels so good to be touched.
A single touch can go a long way—a hug after a long, hard day; a holding hands to keep each other’s hands warm; a caress in the hair while you sleep; or a lay on someone's shoulders. Love, indeed, has a physical form. A form that grounds you in the world that never stops spinning. But in that moment, defenses are lowered, the world seems like a blur; it comes as a gentle reminder that you are alive, and that someone is here living with you.
The magic of physical touch only works when you let people in. There are people that have actually held hands and intertwined bodies but still felt nothing. Love needs intimacy, which is built and sustained through shared experiences, compatible love languages, and a sprinkle of knowingness. There is a certain skill in knowing when a person needs a hug, a hand to hold, or a shoulder to rely on. At times, even a person’s mere presence can be enough.
It takes time to know a person and to actually feel physically comfortable with them. Physical touch is similar to other love languages—the end goal is to express love. The form may be different; but it still makes people feel loved, and empowers them to love in return. As each touch evokes a memory and leaves a lingering feeling, love makes itself known. It is there—and love is indeed more than just an abstract thing.
Article: Princess Friel Lontoc
Graphics: Yuko Shimomura
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