Creating a spark with a fleeting moment in a picturesque landscape surrounded by fragrant flowers and chocolates for sweet treats, a bizarre imagination of celebration of hearts and love, however, one thing might be missing—a companion.
Although it is beautiful to be pursued in love by another being, doing things alone is a choice some people are happy to make in the meantime. Maybe Miley Cyrus is right in her song "Flowers" when she says, "I can love me better than you can."
Glowing with an archaic smile is so rare to find in people these days, whether on the streets or in their reflection in the mirror. But somehow, these people’s hearts race the moment they can have their "me-time" doing many things for themselves.
It is not every day that the butterflies in their stomachs tingle as they look forward to some self-care and quality time on their own. Among these, some have kept a box of treasured reasons why the spark of self-love is so important. Let us meet a few of these people who found love from someone who loves them unconditionally—themselves.
The Spark of Prioritizing
Some situations urge people to act according to their emotions and forget to think rationally, especially when they are in love. However, Courtney, a hopeless romantic, is an exception.
Being in a relationship for five years, she knows when to give time to her boyfriend and support him in his endeavors, not forgetting the fact that having time for herself is essential for her whole being to grow.
By doing this, she leaves the impression that you do not have to be single to learn how to love yourself. You can be in love with another person and be in love with yourself simultaneously.
Prioritizing oneself happens not only within a relationship. With this, Anthony, another hopeless romantic, believes that self-love is important as it is the only lasting relationship one would ever have, bringing oneself to their own awareness and a better version of it.
The Spark in Waiting
Patience is a virtue, but do some necessarily have to fall into the categories of NBSB and NGSB? It is taking so long for some, but as they say, "It's worth the wait."
As for AJ, being free and single makes her focus-driven on her goals, leaving her free from the worries of having distractions in her studies.
"As for me, being single allows me to focus on my goals. I don’t have someone to appease whenever he gets jealous, angry, or whatever the reason may be. With that, I often feel peace doing my things. Being single minimizes distractions."
Similarly, this is what Kai, a firm believer in the "right timing" concept, thinks of as the great advantage of waiting for the right time and not rushing things. She stands for having peace of mind and the freedom to do things at will on her own. For her, the sky's the only limit to the things she can do while being single.
Viewing it from another perspective, inner peace is important for Christian. For him, he won’t be able to love another person without being at peace with himself, and at the same time, he is incapable of receiving love when his mind is at war with itself.
The Spark in Starting Over Again
Heartbreaks are part of transitioning into being a better person. To be in a relationship, whether platonically, romantically, or in any other form, takes great courage to hold a responsibility, keeping in mind the possibilities that in some of the things a person does, they have to consider the other being that is involved or connected to them. Sometimes, relationships have to end, and this is where the phase of starting over again begins.
"Being able to know where I lacked in the first place, not in the relationship but in myself, is a thing that I had to learn the hard way. Settling for the bare minimum is what I did in the last relationship I was in. So, I realized that self-love equates to self-respect and knowing boundaries I should set over loving someone," Fe, a survivor of a failed relationship, reminisced over her quest for self-love.
To add, another self-love advocate, Justin's perspective in many of his heartbreaks is that loving oneself prepares the person to give less and offer more to the relationship one will be involved in. It is something that will help you get committed but open to the possibilities of getting hurt. To put it simply, it covers both sides of the coin.
The Spark in an Old Perspective of Self-Love
Through the lens of elders, loving oneself is important as it will somehow ease the damage of betting on love. Without a doubt, this wisdom purely came from their experiences back in the day, and although some memories of their love faded away, the lessons they carried all along Some of them think that self-love plays a great part in sharing oneself with another, creating a safe space to offer their hearts.
Self-love is not as pathetic as anyone would think. As most people usually overlook, there is a kaleidoscopic world that awaits beyond the monochromatic one it offers. It is a fact that love is more than taking thousands of pictures to archive, letters to write, and moments to share with someone. Sometimes, it sparkles in the smallest of things and can be found within the moments that we take to pause, breathe, and enjoy ourselves. Thus, creating a bubble that risks their hearts but has a safety assurance that can take them to more than contentment and glee.
Article: Lovely Arrocena
Graphics: Yuko Shimomura
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